Squirl's Nest

Wednesday, October 04, 2006

Not really the end

Today was the funeral. After the funeral Ichabod and I had family over at the house. There was laughter, there were lots of stories, and there was music. Our mother would've been happy.

I would be lying if I said it had been easy. I'm waiting to see how I do over the next year. All of the holidays and special times need to be dealt with, one at a time.

But, we had lots of support. All of our wonderful friends we've met here online were no small part of it. We might not have been commenting, but rest assured we read every one. They've been a very precious part of this time.

We can't thank you enough. You've helped us keep our strength. Soon we should be back to our regular reading and commenting. We're so grateful that you're all here.

Thank you.


Blogger Jim said...

Oh Squirl-Bob - I wanted to comment earlier but everyone else says things much more eloquently than I can. Just know that we are all with you, one way or another.

Wed Oct 04, 11:09:00 PM  
Blogger JessicaRabbit said...


Thu Oct 05, 12:42:00 AM  
Blogger Nina said...

"Not really the end"
She lives on in each and every one of you.
Love and hugs!

Thu Oct 05, 09:45:00 AM  
Blogger LadyBug said...

You're in my thoughts and prayers, hon. I love you.

Thu Oct 05, 11:43:00 AM  
Blogger Susie said...

I love imagining the stories and the music, and I'm sure you're so right, no, wait, not your Mom would have been happy with it -- she was happy with it. Like you said, it's not the end, and Mom hasn't ended. There's been a change -- a big change -- but not an end. Keeping you in my prayers, in my heart.

Thu Oct 05, 11:47:00 AM  
Blogger SierraBella said...

Laughter, stories and music is a wonderful way to celebrate your mom's life!
I'll bet she was sitting alongside you all, listening and laughing along.

Thu Oct 05, 05:31:00 PM  
Blogger Platypus said...

Love to you all.

Thu Oct 05, 06:02:00 PM  
Blogger eclectic said...

Sounds exactly like how my cousins, my brothers and I handle occasions like this -- music and laughter and love. I'm glad you have each other, and the shared music of a lifetime to hold you together in the face of this. Normal will never be the same, but it will become your new normal in time. And your mom will always be with you in your heart. Blessings and love to you, Squirly-girl.

Thu Oct 05, 08:19:00 PM  
Blogger Mr. Bloggerific Himself said...

Take you're time Sqrrrl. We'll be here.

Thu Oct 05, 09:52:00 PM  
Blogger Nora said...

I'm so sorry Miss Squirl. Hugs to you and Bucky.

Fri Oct 06, 10:40:00 AM  
Blogger Squirl said...

Jim, that was wonderfully eloquent. Thank you.

Jess, smooches right back. Miss Bucky should be home in a few hours.

Nina, I believe she does. Thanks!

Ladybug, thanks, you're in mine, too.

Susie, we kept each other going at the hospital with stories and laughter. I don't think the hospital would've put up with the electric piano and guitar, though. :)

I'm sure she loved every minute of the party we had in her honor. It wasn't morbid, but neither was her life. We're Irish, we have wakes, it's the only way.

Thank you.

Sierrabella, I'm sure she was right there. I hope you can find laughter and love in this sad time in your life. Keep us up-to-date on how you are, please.

Platypus, thank you!

Eclectic, I'm glad you celebrate times like this in like manner. It does make it easier. Thank you for everything. Including pictures and brownies. :)

Mr B, thank you. I appreciate everyone's support, very much including yours.

Nora, thank you so much for coming over here. It means a lot to me and Bucky.

Fri Oct 06, 10:56:00 AM  
Blogger Ern said...

It sounds like a wonderful celebration of your mom's life, her family, her friends.

Fri Oct 06, 11:36:00 AM  
Blogger tshsmom said...

I'm so sorry! What a blow!
I haven't been online for a week and had no idea what you've been going through. My prayers are with you.

Fri Oct 06, 07:25:00 PM  
Blogger hellokittn said...

I love you sorta-sis :-*. I just wish I could say or do something right that would make you feel better even for a minute. Peace to you and the fam, will be calling in the morning (which by normal standards will probably be "afternoon") so you have been forewarned :-).

Sat Oct 07, 12:02:00 AM  
Blogger Lynn said...

Hugs to you, Squirl!

Sat Oct 07, 03:32:00 AM  
Blogger Squirl said...

Erin, it really was. There was a lot of love in the house that day.

tshsmom, thank you so much. Prayers are always appreciated.

Kittn, hey there, littlest sis. Please call. I'm getting short on weekday minutes but I have tons of weekend minutes. Thanks so much. :)

Lynn, thank you. Hope you're doing well.

Sat Oct 07, 11:13:00 AM  
Anonymous Danielle said...

I'm glad that you have had so much support during this difficult time.

I've been thinking of you.

It sounds like the wake for your mother was great. It makes me wish that we had that sort of tradition in my family. It sounds so much more healing.

Sat Oct 07, 11:25:00 AM  
Blogger eclectic said...

Hee! I'm glad it arrived safely. Holy shit, I love me some brownies! Do you have updated pictures on the house? I'm kinda sorry the first family event in your new home was on such an occasion; but on the other hand, it will keep your mom's most recent party* close at hand for as long as you live there. You're still in my thoughts. Love to all!

* We refer to my dad's 'wake' as "Dad's last party." It makes it easier, softer, to remember.

Sat Oct 07, 09:06:00 PM  
Blogger Christie said...

You were nominated in the RFS Blog Awards!
Go get the button and tell everyone to vote for you!

Sat Oct 07, 10:05:00 PM  
Blogger Dori Lenine said...

You and your family are so very special, Squirl. So talented, warm and caring and FUNNY! I love Funny!

Enjoy your new home and may your mother now be at peace and her soul continue to live on forever within you all.

Sun Oct 08, 12:03:00 AM  
Blogger judypatooote said...

I'm so sorry for your loss....moms are so special, and they will always be in our hearts....the day after we had the funeral for my mom, I came home and I had a message on my phone, it was my mom saying "judy, call me".....I can't figure out where it came from, but I figure she was thinking of me up there in Heaven.....

Sun Oct 08, 07:17:00 AM  
Blogger Squirl said...

Danielle, thank you. My family has always used laughter and music to get through hard times. I don't know how we'd get through without that.

Eclectic, brownies remind me of my mom, too. I used to make them for her as she loved them so. She would be mad if she thought we were all just sitting around constantly crying over her. Not that we still don't, privately, but she wouldn't want a public show of it.

Oh, Christie, that's good! I love it, thanks. :)

LoriD, thank you. :)

Judy, that message is really weird. It must've been nice to hear your mom's voice. Thank you.

Sun Oct 08, 09:47:00 AM  
Blogger Lushy said...

Squirl: You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. *hugs*

Sun Oct 08, 06:23:00 PM  
Blogger Squirl said...

Thank you, Lushy, it's very much appreciated.

Mon Oct 09, 07:53:00 PM  

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