Squirl's Nest

Friday, April 03, 2009

I has a sad

I has a sad

I usually try to keep this site upbeat, but sometimes I just can't. Ichabod and I used to work for the same company. So when we moved from downtown GR to the lakeshore it was no big deal.

Well, Ichabod's talents weren't being utilized well at this company and he had the chance to move to another one. He has more creative freedom and is doing very well there. The only problem is that his drive time is doubled now. And that's only if the traffic and weather are good.

He's been talking about getting a place in that city for during the week so he can work more and won't be so darned tired from the drive. I know that the drive's been wearing on him, it hurts his back, it's putting lots of miles on his car, and it's costing extra for gas. Getting another place sounded like a good idea. Until last night when he told me found one and will be going there starting Monday.

I was surprised by my reaction. I cried before going to sleep. I cried in the shower. I'm crying as I write this. Not what I expected. I know that I will get used to it. We'll both get caught up on our reading. It's also a good thing that we're both on the same cell phone plan because there's no way we can just instant message. We'll be talking every day.

But, in the meantime, I has a sad.


Anonymous Susie said...

Oh, honey. This is a sad. Sometimes even things that make "sense" are just too freakin' sad. I hug you.

Fri Apr 03, 08:58:00 AM  
Blogger Mr. Bloggerific Himself said...

Yuck. Doesn't seem like such a wunnerful idea to me.

Fri Apr 03, 09:16:00 AM  
Blogger Squirl said...

Thanks Susie, I really appreciate that hug. Part of me feels like a whiny brat, but another part feels like I'm being honest allowing myself to feel the sad.

Mr B, thanks. It will be an adjustment.

Fri Apr 03, 09:23:00 AM  
Anonymous sheryl said...

Oh I am so sorry to read that. Ouch.

Like Susie said on twitter, I know there are good reasons, but still - I'm sorry. It is sad. Love to you and your man. Hopefully it won't have to last long.

Fri Apr 03, 09:23:00 AM  
Blogger Squirl said...

Sheryl, thanks so much for stopping by. I really appreciate it.

Fri Apr 03, 09:30:00 AM  
Blogger Circus Kelli said...

((Hugs)) That is sad.

Fri Apr 03, 09:38:00 AM  
Blogger Bucky Four-Eyes said...

I'm so sorry you has a sad. :(

I has a crab legs for you, though, if that will help for a minute.

Fri Apr 03, 09:40:00 AM  
Blogger Mr. Bloggerific Himself said...

*thinks the Bod of Ich is prolly a secret....agent man...but isn't sure how getting crabs from a sibling will help*

*now realizes "crab legs" is prolly code for something 'portant*

*thinks maybe Bucky and Sqrrrlie Joe Bob are spies too and that the pink-haired-hottie at his local coffee shop is too*

*now has a sad 'cause he knows the pink-haired-hottie wouldn't be bothered with spying on him*


*kicks dirt*

Fri Apr 03, 09:45:00 AM  
Blogger Squirl said...

CK, thanks!

Bucky, thanks, I will have some crab legs thank you very much.

Mr B, the pink-haired hottie isn't in our organization so you might be safe. No more sad!

Fri Apr 03, 10:17:00 AM  
Blogger ladymadaysia said...


I'm sorry to hear that.

It will get better with time and I am sure you will work out a way to spend time together during the week again.

[internet hug]

Fri Apr 03, 11:30:00 AM  
Blogger Squirl said...

Thanks Lady M, maybe he might come back sometimes during the week. It will just be a relief for him to not have that drive both ways every weekday.

Fri Apr 03, 11:55:00 AM  
Blogger here today, gone tomorrow said...

Oh, Squirl. I'm so, so sorry. Yes, it's definitely a sad to be without one's lovely companion on a daily basis. Fiero, Ollie and I send head butts (them) and hugs (me).

Fri Apr 03, 12:36:00 PM  
Blogger Squirl said...

Oh, htgt, you really understand this one. At least Ichabod will be home every weekend.

Thanks for the headbutts and the hugs. :-)

Fri Apr 03, 01:12:00 PM  
Blogger eclectic said...

I can't like this. It's sensible in a way; but it's nonsense in another, sad way.

I hope the adjustment isn't too awful, and that you learn to find the good sides of having some time and space to yourself each week. In the meantime, I'm sending big hugs and wishing you lots of wine.

Fri Apr 03, 01:40:00 PM  
Blogger von Krankipantzen said...

No kidding about hassing a sad. That is a serious bummer and sucks, to boot. Hugs to you both. He must has a sad too.

Fri Apr 03, 01:43:00 PM  
Blogger Squirl said...

E, I know I'll adjust. I think my reaction surprised me more than anything. Usually I'm pretty practical and logical and this feels anything but. Thanks for the well wishes and hugs.

Thanks Kranki, he probably is, too. He puts up a better front than I do. Thanks for the hugs.

Fri Apr 03, 01:59:00 PM  
Blogger tshsmom said...

It always sucks when we have to sell ourselves short in order to make a living! I totally understand your "sad".
L and I have spent many years where we worked on totally opposite shifts and didn't even have the same days off. Most days we only saw each other for 15 minutes.
We both became more independent and didn't rely on each other as much. This can be a mixed blessing.
Now our work schedules allow us to be together 2 hrs/day and we have the same days off. We're working on re-establishing our communications skills with each other.
I'm sure that you and Ichabod will find a way to work through the problems you encounter in this situation. It isn't easy, but worth the effort.

Fri Apr 03, 03:52:00 PM  
Anonymous Courtney said...

{{hugs}} I'm sorry you has a sad. Maybe you two could trade off a few days and make the drive to see each other. Unless, of course, you really ARE spies. ;)

Fri Apr 03, 04:01:00 PM  
Blogger Squirl said...

tshsmom, your situation seems worse than mine. We work the same basic shift and have electronic/digital means to communicate. I give you two tons of credit for doing what you do.

Courtney, thanks! We can instant message and we'll be on the phone every night. We could also meet in Grand Rapids for dinner sometimes. It'll work out. And, um, if I'm a spy I'm not allowed to blog about it.

Sat Apr 04, 08:21:00 AM  
Blogger Danielle said...

Well, after reading the first couple of sentences, I was really worried one of you no longer had your job.

so *whew* relief that you are both still employed.

HOWEVER, verrrrrrrrrrrrrry sad for you. This will be a big adjustment for you both.
this photo is completely appropriate.

Sat Apr 04, 08:37:00 AM  
Blogger Squirl said...

Danielle, I can understand what you thought with the way the economy is. My company cut our salaries by 10% but they give us every other Friday off.

I know you and your hubby have had to be in separate places before. And you weren't close driving distance, either.

You're right. We will adjust and be fine. We're still working, we still have our health, our relationship is very healthy, so we'll handle it. I just appreciate everyone helping me through this bout of sad. :-)

Sat Apr 04, 09:30:00 AM  
Anonymous Susie said...

Ooh, so you can meet in the middle for dinner sometimes? And then you can go to one of those seedy one-hour motels! Or you can age-regress and hop in the backseat, in the restaurant parking lot! And get arrested and be on the 11 p.m. news nekkid! Oh, the blog posts you're gonna have!!

(looking on the bright side, here ;)

Sat Apr 04, 06:49:00 PM  
Blogger Squirl said...

Susie, tee hee, the naughty bit sounds like fun. It's been a lot of years since I did it in the backseat of a car. :-)
Thanks for the smile.

Sat Apr 04, 07:04:00 PM  
Blogger chia said...

There are plenty of secluded parking spots betwixt the two. I'm just sayin' :-). You are consulting the master (*tee hee*)

I love you guys. Sorry... this sucks!

Call me next week -- thank goodness for being on the same plan (we still have the same plan, right... hrm)!!

Sat Apr 04, 10:44:00 PM  
Blogger SME said...

Oh, man. I am so sorry. That's just not easy, and I totally understand. I would has a major sad, too. Hang in there, guys...hopefully that sad will turn back into a happy in the end!

Sun Apr 05, 08:23:00 PM  
Blogger Ern said...

Oh, that sucks. I'm sorry. *HUGS* to you.

Sun Apr 05, 09:09:00 PM  
Blogger Squirl said...

Chia, yes, we're on the same plan. I will have to call.

SME, thanks!!!

Ern, thanks! I hope you're doing okay. Thinking about you a lot.

Tue Apr 07, 07:25:00 AM  

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